I believe permission matters more than effort. Permission to stop white-knuckling a problem that was never going to respond to more willpower, and to look at what's actually running underneath it instead.

Most of the men who end up in my office have already tried harder. More discipline, more routines, one more attempt to fix it alone before they ever called. That's usually the problem itself, not the fix for it.

That's the work here. I’ll be direct to name the core source of your issue, whether it's the type you keep chasing, the relationship toxicity that never ends, or a habit that keeps winning. Once I find it, I’ll say it out loud: oddly-specific and irreverent at times. Unlike others in your life or other therapists you’ve tried, I think you can handle it.

I offer a straight and educated opinion about what's working and what isn't, plus specific tools for handling it. I stay with you while you look at what you've been avoiding, and I’ll hold an inviting but grounded poker face the whole time.

Your beliefs and how you see the world are part of that conversation. They belong in the room, not something you set aside to make the work fit a template.

Over seven years, I've worked with a wide range of issues, from specific clinical diagnoses to men and couples. I’m also an NC native, practiced first in my hometown in Hickory and then Charlotte, and now see clients in the Lake Norman area in person, or virtually anywhere in the state.

Outside the office, you can find me out and about with my wife and two year old at a park or whatever festival is blocking Main Street. I’ve also been a skater since I was old enough for ISS. I won’t be found on a pickleball court, but I’d love to try sometime.

If this sounds like a fit, the next step is a free 15-minute call, not a commitment.

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I really do skate - check out my skate/therapy page on Instagram!

instagram.com/skatetherapysesh